{About the writer : Dr Satish Rasaily is Post-Doctorate Fellow of Addiction Medicine of NIMHANS, Bangalore
working as Psychiatrist and Addiction Specialist at District Hospital
Singtam. This article is from the session on early threatening signs of drug misuse held at Jorethang during Zest Marathon on 13 Jan 2019.}
How to find out if Your
Child is Using Drugs or Alcohol?
Have
a real, face-to-face conversation when your son or daughter comes home after
socializing with friends. If there has been drinking or smoking, the smell will
be on their breath, on clothing and in their hair.
Look Them in the Eyes.
When your child gets home after going out with her friends, take a close look.
Pay attention to his or her eyes. Eyes will be red and heavy-lidded, with
constricted pupils if they’ve used marijuana. Pupils will be dilated, and he or
she may have difficulty focusing if they’ve been drinking. In addition, red,
flushed colour to the face and cheeks can also be a sign of drinking.
Watch for Mood Changes.
How does your teen act after a night out with friends? Are they loud and
obnoxious, or laughing hysterically at nothing? Unusually clumsy to the point
of stumbling into furniture and walls, tripping over their own feet and
knocking things over? Sullen, withdrawn, and unusually tired and slack-eyed for
the hour of night? Do they look queasy and stumble into the bathroom? These are
all signs that they could have been drinking, using marijuana or other drugs.
Monitor Driving and the
Car. Your teen’s car and driving
habits can offer clues as well. Is driving more reckless when he or she’s
coming home after being with friends? Are there new, unexplained dents? If
you’re suspicious, examine the inside of the car too. Does it smell like smoke
or alcohol fumes? Are there any bottles, pipes, bongs, or other drug
paraphernalia rolling around on the floor or hidden in the glove box? If you
find evidence of drug use, be sure to prepare for the conversation ahead.
Keep an eye out for
deceit or secretiveness.
Are their weekend plans starting to sound fishy? Are they being vague about
where they’re going? Can they describe the movie they supposedly just saw? They
say parents will be at the party they’re attending, but can’t give you a phone
number and come home acting intoxicated? They get in way past curfew or
estimated time with an endless string of excuses? When excuses fail, do they
respond to your inquiries and concern by telling you that it’s none of your
business? If these ring true, something is wrong and it’s time to take action.
Should You Search Their
Room? The limits you set
with your child do not stop at their bedroom door. If you notice concerning
changes in behaviour, unusual odours wafting from their room (like marijuana or
cigarette smoke), smells to mask other smells like incense or air fresheners,
or other warning signs, it’s important to find out what’s going on behind that
“KEEP OUT” sign.
One note of caution,
however. Be prepared to explain your reasons for a search, whether or not you
decide to tell them about it beforehand. You can let them know it’s out of
concern for their health and safety. If you discover that your kid is not drinking
or doing drugs, this could be a good time to find out if there’s something else
that may need to addressed.
Kids
come up with some crafty places to conceal alcohol, drugs, and drug
paraphernalia. Some possible hiding spots include: Dresser
drawers beneath or between clothes Desk drawers CD/DVD/Tape/Video cases Small
boxes – jewellery, pencil, etc. Backpacks/duffle bags under a bed in a plant,
buried in the dirt In between books on a bookshelf inside books with pages cut
out Makeup cases – inside fake lipstick tubes or compacts under a loose plank
in floor boards inside over-the-counter medicine containers (Tylenol, Advil,
etc.) Inside empty candy bags. Don’t overlook your teen’s cell phone or other
digital devices. Do you recognize their frequent contacts? Do recent messages
or social media posts hint at drug use or contradict what they’ve told you?
If
your search turns up evidence of drug use, prepare for the conversation ahead
and seek help from an addiction specialist at the earliest.
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